7-Day Plan to Better Self-Esteem
Day 1: Commit to the challenge.Set your intention to develop a positive relationship with yourself. Write “I am worthy”, “I accept you”, “I am beautiful”, on sticky notes and put them in places you will see throughout the day to remind you of your commitment (i.e. your wallet, light switch, computer screen).Day 2: Gain Awareness.In order to break any bad habit, you must first be highly aware of it – what triggers it, what exacerbates it, and so on. Since your inner voice is with you all the time – you talk to you more than anyone – it has become very familiar which makes this step a bit tricky. Today, your job will be to cultivate an acute awareness of the workings of your inner critic. Pretend you are watching a movie in your mind. The star of this movie is your inner critic – that voice who likes to torment you. Anytime you notice the critic judging, criticizing and making up stories about you, gently snap the elastic band.Day 3: Challenge your inner critic.Instead of getting hooked into the drama of your own mental movies, start challenging your inner critic. Any time you notice a negative thought, snap the elastic band and ask yourself:
- Is this thought helpful?
- Are there more positive substitutes for the thoughts I’m having?
- How would I feel if I chose better thoughts?
- The critic has no power unless you believe it.
- You don’t have to listen to it.
- You are not a helpless victim to your inner critic.